Carpe diem: One Day or Day One?

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Carpe diem: One Day or Day One?

Rifa Deka | October 12, 2019 17:05 hrs


The only way for one to achieve greatness in life is through love for what one does. “Do what you love, what you're passionate about, and you won't have to work for a single day in your life,” is what we've all been hearing since each one of us stepped into the corporate world, but how true is this? How many of us actually do what we want to do, rather than what we ought to do. How many of us have the liberty to choose what sets our souls on fire? Doing what we love sure must be freedom, but loving what we do is where true happiness lies. We must really be decisive of what is best for us whether people approve of it or not.


The first lady of the United States, a diplomat and a great political figure in history, Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway.” We kill thousands of dreams every single day, some are lost to the fear of losing someone, and some are lost to the fear of not being able to earn enough, while many are lost to ‘doubt.’ We doubt whether what we love will result in a positive outcome. We doubt whether what we love will fetch us more money. We doubt whether what we love is something we'd be capable of doing. Doubts kill dreams. More dreams succumb to doubtfulness than people to cancer!


What we ‘love’ doesn't necessarily have to be a job, although many of us spend years and years of our lives working that 9 to 5, waiting for that paycheck to clear bills, crawling through the week, desperately waiting for the weekend.


What we ‘love' could be a person, it could be a situation and it could be a commodity... It could just be food! Giving up what you love is like giving up that giant tub of ice cream you're craving because of the fear of being called glutton. It is like giving up on someone you love because your social circles don't approve of that person. It is like putting down that fancy pink shirt you love at the mall because you're a boy and you fear you’ll look too feminine.


In the never ending debate of “do what you love” vs. “do what you must,” the worst piece of advice one can get is ‘safety first’. Unfortunately, it’s the most common one too. In my quest, as I set out to find where we millennials went wrong in choosing between the two, I stumbled upon the ideas of another like-minded individual who spoke for every young adult and gave advice worthy of being brought out in the open. “Every time we find ourselves confused, we turn to our friends, family, well-wishers for counsel and that’s where it all starts to go downhill,” said Fahd Hazarika, a local news anchor.


“It is evident that obviously none of your near and dear ones want any harm to come to you. They do not wish to see you get in trouble and in order to protect you, they make you believe that avoiding trouble is your only way out. Even if a few among others do feel like giving you the right advice, they don’t, because nobody wants to be blamed for anything. Either ways, you end up being directed towards caution and not progression,” he said on seeking the right advice from the right person when in a fix.


“If you want to live a life free of regrets, you should do the exact opposite. There is no problem with being safe and sensible when needed, but the trouble with always having a way out is that you will always take it. Hence, your ‘safety first’ ends up becoming ‘safety always’ and before you know it, it’s too late to do what you really want to. Keep in mind that you’re going to live only once and that certainly does not mean you use this as an excuse to throw everything away, of course not! But stop behaving like you’re going to live forever!” exclaimed the 28-year-old who switched lanes in his own career and went after what he loved.


“Don’t study or keep at a stressful, monotonous job just to make your parents proud if it’s not something that’s going to make you happy. You’re only going to end up living one half of your life according to somebody else’s choices and the other half imagining what your life would have been like, had you made those choices yourself.” He went on to add that, “The next time you want to consider taking advice from someone, ask yourself, whether you want to trade lives with them. If not, then it’s probably the best to say ‘Thank you, but that’s exactly where I don’t want to be.’” A civil engineer by profession, Fahd gave up engineering and took up a career in the television industry as a news anchor at the age of 26 and there has been no turning back for him since then.


Every single day, millions of people seated behind big desks and their fancy cubicles wait for the clock to strike 5 so they can leave for home. They wait 8 hours a day, 5 days a week just to do what they love and what adds value to their lives on the weekend. Why wait for the weekend? Why wait at all? Why not seize the day? We cannot choose what or who we fall in love with, but we have total control over taking the road less travelled by, the one leading to what we love, leading us to our destiny. When we stop chasing money, security and stability, and approval from others, we step out of our comfort zone.


People strangle their dreams, one after the other, every single day without even realizing that there is no escape route that way... No superhero to rescue these damsels in distress. One has to grab hold of the steering wheel of their own life. The time to do what you love is now, this is where life happens!

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